DEAR MISS MANNERS: My boyfriend’s ex moved to our city and asked to stay with us for a week while renovations were being finished on her new apartment.
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She was offended and complained to my boyfriend, who said it was rude of me to say anything.
Could I have handled it better?
GENTLE READER: You handled both the situation and, luckily, the garbage, remarkably well. Breaking things and hiding the evidence is not polite guest behavior.
Miss Manners hopes you take some solace, however, in this woman making it obvious why she is your boyfriend’s ex. She will leave it up to you to decide if his calling you rude and siding with her is worthy of making him your ex, too.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I had an art show last summer, the week before my birthday.
An old friend stopped by and purchased a very nice glass platter (over $150) for her daughter. As she was paying for it, she told me that this sale was my birthday gift.
I smiled and said “thank you.” I didn’t really know how to react.
Then at Christmas, as I opened her gift, she told me she’d followed the same process: She bought the item from her sister, called the sale a gift, then gave the item to me. I smiled and thanked her (and wondered what her sister thought).
It’s so odd to me. I would rather not be given the gift of a sale.
I think she feels that she’s supporting me and my art. It also might be a way for her to cut back on spending, as she is giving two “gifts” for the price of one.
It might be time to stop giving presents. I’m just not sure how to tell her that her scheme doesn’t feel like a gift.
GENTLE READER: With all of the demands and shenanigans associated with modern present-giving, Miss Manners is almost inclined to agree with you. The act has all but lost its charm.
You may try saying, “How kind of you to take an interest in my artwork. But I would never want you to purchase something merely as a favor if you would not otherwise do so. In that case, I am happier to sell it to a stranger.”
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My brother is having a hard time. Gary has a toddler who calls him “Mum.”
My question is: When I introduce Gary to someone, do I call him my nephew or my niece?
GENTLE READER: Why not ask Gary?
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