Child Psychologists Are Begging Parents and Grandparents To Stop Asking These 10 Questions ...Saudi Arabia

This question is common, especially if a child is slower to open up around family and friends (which can make parents and grandparents uncomfortable). However, it plants seeds of self-doubt in kids."This question can make the child feel like there is something wrong with their personality or socialization skills," Dr. Vaccaro points out. "It can make them feel less confident and socially anxious if they didn’t think they were shy to begin with."Related: 5 Phrases a Child Psychologist Is Begging Parents and Grandparents To Stop Saying

This one is short but not sweet."It’s hard to picture this question as one that anyone, child or adult, can hear as well-meaning," says Dr. Maddy Brener, Psy.D., who treats children and teens with Thriveworks in San Diego. "If a child is messing up, they need clear, direct, specific correction—not the implication that they are simply ‘wrong’ or bad."Related: 11 Things a Child Psychologist Is Begging Parents and Grandparents To Stop Doing

4. "Aren't you too old for that?"

See also: "Why are you saying or doing that?""Questions like this convey expectations of more insight and self-regulation than may be developmentally reasonable," Dr. Brener says. "They are also vague and can create confusion for the child as to which of their behaviors/words are undesirable."She suggests being more specific, such as saying, "We need to be quiet in the library.""Specific statements and questions...make both the undesired behaviors and preferred corrections much more apparent," she explains.Related: 6 Phrases a Child Psychologist Is Begging Parents and Grandparents To Start Saying ASAP

6. "Are you sure you want to do that?"

"Comparison is the thief of joy" and "every kid is different" may sound passé, but these clichés hold significant truth."Making a comparison like this one to a child can strongly damage their self-esteem and create resentment towards the person or child they are being compared to," Dr. Vaccaro says.Related: 12 Phrases Psychologists Are Begging Parents and Grandparents to Stop Saying to a Youngest Child

8. "Why aren’t you getting good grades in school?"

It's so easy to ask and you may have been on the receiving end too. "This question isn’t always bad, but shouldn’t be the go-to, especially without first finding out about who the kiddo is today," Dr. Brener says.Here's why:"When all of an adult’s attention is placed on the child’s future and not their present, it can make them feel like nothing they’re doing now is interesting or worthwhile," Dr. Brener explains. "It can also add to the immense performance pressure that younger and younger kids are feeling these days."Related: Child Psychologists Are Begging Parents and Grandparents to Never Turn a Blind Eye to These 12 Behaviors

10. "Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?"

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Honestly, people of any age can benefit from hearing this one."When kids are going through a hard time, it can be very tempting to jump in and advise or fix," Dr. Brener says. "Just like adults, however, that isn’t always the most helpful thing."She explains how this question gives kids autonomy and respect to clarify their needs, strengthening your bond and trust. Also? You're more likely to get answers when the child trusts you're genuinely listening to hear them rather than drop (however well-intentioned) knowledge. Related: A Child Psychologist Is Begging Parents and Grandparents To Adopt These 10 'House Rules' ASAP

2. "How are you feeling about this?"

3. "What was the best part of your day?"

Look for a bright spot, even in darker times, with an open-ended question that beats the "fine-inducing:" "How was your day?""This question focuses on the positive things that come to mind when asked and allows the child to open up about parts of their day that their parents and grandparents might not have been a part of," Dr. Vaccaro explains.

Related: People Who Felt Constantly Scolded as Children Usually Develop These 10 Traits as Adults, Psychologists Say

Expert Sources:

Dr. Joe Vaccaro, Psy.D., the executive director of Southern California, Newport HealthcareDr. Maddy Brener, Psy,D., who treats children and teens with Thriveworks in San Diego

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